Do you feel no one’s interested in what you have to say, so you end up feeling unseen and unheard? Have you desperately longed to be or do something more, but felt afraid to take that step?
I had played small for 42 years, until I stood up at the EFT Gathering in Vancouver last week and spoke to 75 people about how I felt like I’d stayed in the shadows my whole life.
I’d consistently been the cheer leader for my clients and students and friends, encouraging their gifts, yet I’d hidden myself away, “enjoying the crumbs under the table” (as my mentor, Dov Baron, says).
I have to be honest, as I stood there, I was unsure how my presentation would be received. I was opening myself up. Most people sitting in the audience knew nothing of my personal life; my saboteurs, and my limitations.
They do now!
And the reason I’m sharing this with you now is because the audience related to what I was saying. They were laughing, they were crying. I was blown away – I had no idea how many people were living life in this way until I asked, “How many of you can relate to what I’m saying?” . And 90% of the audience put up its hands!
I asked who would like to do some tapping with me on stage, and 90% of the audience put up its hands!
Can you relate to this? If so, you’ll find the following tapping transcript helpful.
Even though I’ve played small for a long time, I accept myself anyway in this moment
Even though for any number of reasons I’ve chosen to play small, I can accept myself for that
Even though a big part of me needs to play small, there’s a wiser and more powerful part of me that is ready and willing to be seen and heard, and I’ve decided to allow that part of me to prevail
Head: I’ve played small
Eyebrow: I’ve hidden my gifts and skills away
Side of eye: it was safer to play small
Under eye: I couldn’t let them really, truly see me
Under nose: and now I can
Chin: now it’s time to express myself a little more
Collarbone: now it’s time to feel safe enough to be seen and heard
Under arm: I’m ready and willing to take that step now!
Take a breath, assess how you’re feeling and tap through some more rounds, acknowledging what is coming up for you as you do so.